Hi!

I am dating this new guy, Jay. He is truly a good guy. He says that he loves me but I had my heart broken once before so hearing that scares me. I don’t think Jay would ever purposely heart me and I don’t want to push him away but I don’t want to be hurt.

Want To Be In Love

OK, here’s the thing. How long ago was your heart broken? It sounds like this was a pretty recent occurrence in your life, right? And the simple truth is that you can’t get over a heart break in just a few days or weeks. Sometimes it takes months and in rare cases it can take years. You said this Jay guy is really great and amazing. And to top if off, he loves you. But it sounds like you are just not ready for that yet.

I think you need to break it off with Jay. I know it’s hard to let go of a good guy! But the fact is that you don’t love him the way he deserves - you can’t yet. You are still healing from your last hurt. So be honest with Jay. Tell him that you are not quite ready to be in another relationship, but you sure hope he’s still around when you are because he’s amazing and he deserves more than sitting around waiting on you to get over your ex.