Dear Chelle,

Next weekend I am going to be forced to see my ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend - who just happens to be my ex-best friend. How do I handle this situation?

- Don’t Wanna See Them

Oh man, that’s a double blow. You lost not only your boyfriend but your best friend all in one shot. That’s horrible and selfish and I sure do hope you find a new best friend who is a little more loyal than that other girl!

But anyway, on to the actual question. You need to first off all make sure you are looking your absolute best. You don’t want them to think that you are so upset over losing both of them that you have become ogre-like in appearance. Get your hair cut and colored if you have time. Buy a new outfit. Get some new lip gloss or anything else you can do to make yourself look nice and feel more confident about this impending meeting between you and the ex-boyfriend.

Next, get busy doing some cool stuff or making plans to do some cool stuff. It’s inevitable that they will ask what you have been up to and you don’t want to just babble on with something like “Well, ya know, not much.” You want to be able to say “I have been so busy! I saw that new movie and next week I’m starting a painting class. Oh, and I’ve been taking tennis lessons at the Y. It’s been a blast lately!”

Whatever you do, make sure you are the bigger person. We already know that your ex-boyfriend and ex-best friend are low-life scum, right? Don’t stoop to their level. Don’t get ugly about it. Simply talk about how good things are. It’s OK to imply that you are better off without them but you don’t actually have to come out and say it. Be the grown up here and walk away with your head held high.